Trying to Get It


Ahhh, I often have students say “I don’t’ get it” or “I think I’m getting it” or “I’m trying to get it” as we work on vocal exercises, smoothing out the bridges, style tools… various aspects of the voice and artistry.

So what is it you are hoping to get? In fact you’ll never “get it”. Not in the way we think of getting it. Let’s equate it to writing a song… when you’ve been writing songs for 5 years do you “get it”. Are you done learning how to write? Have you crossed some finish line, completed a level of certification that tells you you’re “done”? NOOoooo way! In fact, most writers I know feel like they don’t know how to write every time they start a new song. Or think for a moment “Oh, I’ve written my best song, won’t ever write a song as good as this one”. Of course, that’s not true. It’s just that there is no “getting it” nowhere to “get to”. It's a process, an experience we have - unique and in the moment every time.

You can insert any activity you do and realize there is no “getting it” –  painting, swimming, basketball, playing piano, yoga, construction, fashion, design, dance… and if you keep trying to get it, you will always fall short and feel further from the “finish line” because you are chasing an illusion. There is no finish line. Enjoy the evolution of your talent and skills.

As a songwriter you have ways to write a song, you have craft and it’s always evolving and fluid. There is a core that becomes stronger and stronger, which gives you the the skills and craft to improvise, go with the flow and take risks.

Singing, as you become more skilled becomes fun, a deeper artistic experience with a stable voice you can trust, skills you use so you can be uniquely expressive and daring - FREE.  This is where the fun, the joy of singing exists. So start now. Start playing with your tools, using the skills to enjoy your singing and let go of the goal of “getting it” which is actually the goal to get it “right” which is a construct to fail. Self Expression, you can't get it wrong!

Perfection and fun do not co-exist. Have fun and you’ll be better than you imagine!