One thing I hear again and again is how getting into a writing session day after day with new people is both exhausting, hard, not usually fulfilling and feels like ground hog day. I did a session with an artist who said, I have nothing left to say. I’ve been in sessions everyday for over a year, feels like I’m on a wheel - same people, going in circles.

So what do you do when you’re stuck?

The hard on myself, high achieving talented person that I am sets high expectations for my performance. I anticipate picking up right where I left off, be it yesterday or last week, and I expect myself to out perform my last session.

When somebody wins an award,  they cry, they’re ecstatic they bring their team up they thank everybody - starting with parents! they know the entire road and all the sweat and all the tears and all the everything it took to get to that moment. That moment is 15 seconds long.

Balance, strength and dynamics build from the middle out. We find our balance and our alignment and as we get stronger we can get both more intense and more gentle.

You never know what your creative endeavors will become. Sometimes they go nowhere, sometimes they become what you aimed for, sometimes they create a life of their own. Many great successes were sleepers, totally a surprise to the creator and the public.

We change as people, evolve, but we are also so influenced by the outside. Shut down parts of ourselves, hide, not to be noticed or scapegoated, in a desire to connect.

You just can’t run from yourself, so why bother? Instead, embrace yourself and go BIG! Go boldly in the direction of your loves, passions, and style!

The more I understand myself, the more I embrace and love who I am, and the more empowered I am to feel truly joyful in my own skin. Like myself, love myself, and show up being Wendy Parr!

One artist I work with - I found an unusual tool for them. In fact, I’ve never used it as a solo tool before - I have a game I play that uses a blending of artists to help the artist break out of their idea of themselves, create expression they didn’t even know they could do. It’s super fun!

Trying to reconnect to the past puts you in your head. Your emotions are in your body and get expressed through your voice. I don’t believe you need to relive your pain every time you sing a song.

I’ve always allowed myself to flow with the feeling of expression that I have at the moment. But I also spent years finding and allowing myself my most authentic expression when the world told me yuck, ugh not that, don’t be that!

I’m so grateful for all the paths I’ve taken, and most happy to be dedicated to my evolution of self. You do you, boo!

Knowing who you are is the key to success, yet managers tell me all the time that artists don’t really know who they are. What happens to artists when they don’t really know who they are? Somebody else starts to tell them who they are, which leads to feeling like an imposter.

I always listen to the in-ear mix when I work with an artist. One artist, after 3 years of touring, was not having fun anymore, not feeling inspired. No wonder he wasn’t inspired, he wasn’t hearing music anymore, he was hearing a computer click.

Your focus changes everything.

I was working with an artist on tour. They're seasoned and have toured many times. They were so tired and said, "I want to quit."

“Think outside of the box”, “Get out of you comfort zone” these are such common phrases that can lead you to take risks, level up and have breakthroughs you’ve been dreaming about.

I truly believe we only succeed when we are in over our head.

The most important voice to listen to is your own. Creating a life and career you love is about discovering what you love to do, what makes you feel amazing, where your talents lie an your purpose - how you want to affect people in this world.

If an athlete has a knee injury, they would be wise not to expect themselves to work out and play the way they did before the injury. You change your work out to rehabilitate and come back stronger. We need to work in the subtleties.

Watching my kids and they basically have two main expressions - Crying for anything that is emotionally uncomfortable, including frustration, pain and hunger and smiling and laughing for everything that is on the joyful side of their experience.

Your work, art, heart + the various talents you have is your signage. Social media is your store front. Let people know what’s inside + they’ll come back again and again to do business for what you EMOTIONALLY PROVIDE.

Have I told you about the time I sang with Patti LaBelle?

Or, should I say: the several times I sang with Patti Labelle?!… I was a teenager that first time-- the second time I went to see her, I took flowers. I was about 20 years old, she asked me if I could rap. I said...

As a young artist training… slowly but surely, I became incredibly good at technique. But, I was feeling less and less creative, less and less free, less and less expressive. There were specific songs I would sing to show off my mix-- other songs weren’t good enough. Focusing on being a good technician diminished my artistry and joy. It was a long road back to my joy.

“Where is the melody?”, the producer asked me. The verses didn’t match, the chorus was consistent, but still had lyrical changes each time. There were some golden nuggets, but there wasn’t anything about the song that was truly solid and reliable.